tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post2938817947877696723..comments2023-06-04T01:42:33.756-07:00Comments on chocolate and whine: Making things even more difficult.Stephanie Harshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15502947272568502626noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-27430547255460571152010-05-13T20:45:51.000-07:002010-05-13T20:45:51.000-07:00Again late but, I can't even think about my ex...Again late but, I can't even think about my ex after 11 years without getting mad. No way I could be friends.However, since this is about you and not me, I say what the others say. Back away and take a LOT of time to get past the divorce and then feel it out.I know this is so hard. Hang in there Stephanie. Those of us here think you're great!GrumbleBotnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-65151045365158755612010-04-26T02:03:48.000-07:002010-04-26T02:03:48.000-07:00I have been telling her the same thing about those...I have been telling her the same thing about those treats! She should totally sell them!Christinehttp://teeterscrazylife.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-50012941478696378102010-04-25T01:46:43.000-07:002010-04-25T01:46:43.000-07:00Agreed. With everyone up there. Yes, it's po...Agreed. With everyone up there. Yes, it's possible but not for a very long time. And not while you are using him as emotional support. That's just going to prolong the hurt. And I want your hurt to be as short-lived as possible.Alias Motherhttp://aliasmother.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-85493585085063576092010-04-24T10:31:35.000-07:002010-04-24T10:31:35.000-07:00-->I'm "friends" with a few old b...-->I'm "friends" with a few old boyfriends but that's because so many years have passed that I don't have feelings for them anymore. Your feelings are still on the surface which means it's too soon to be friends with The Husband.I like the idea of selling your tasty treats too.WebSavvyMomhttp://www.websavvymom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-41583945512047054012010-04-23T14:36:17.000-07:002010-04-23T14:36:17.000-07:00Agreed....you should give this way more time. Wou...Agreed....you should give this way more time. Wounds are still raw....feelings still too strong. While being friends may sound like a good thing....there is the real possibility you two may never get there. You may look at him after time has passed and think "I don't even want to be around this clown". It happened that way with me ~ its been 11 years since my divorce. I still wonder sometimes what I ever saw in him ~ if not for our daughters, I wouldn't care if I talked with him again ~ and we were together for 13 years.Debbie W.http://www.whispersfromthewoods.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-12928570217111583122010-04-23T13:31:43.000-07:002010-04-23T13:31:43.000-07:00Sorry sweetie, but my 2 cents are that you should ...Sorry sweetie, but my 2 cents are that you should back away. It's going to hurt you.hugs xoxkerryannehttp://www.3continentfamily.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-16168348807411249622010-04-23T10:02:12.000-07:002010-04-23T10:02:12.000-07:00I've got to agree with everyone else. It'...I've got to agree with everyone else. It's too soon now.gaylehttp://planetmfiles.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-15387496891169074812010-04-23T09:40:24.000-07:002010-04-23T09:40:24.000-07:00I agree with Rory - totally and completely...but I...I agree with Rory - totally and completely...but I understand. My parents have seven marriages between the two of them and years - decades - of therapy and I'm still 16 again when issues flare up. So I get that, but next time, go visit your best girlfriend - or your gorgeous sister. Or go for a long walk with your camera. Just stay away from the couch and sports -- at least for a (long) while.small town small timeshttp://smalltownsmalltimes.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-36256127709685421482010-04-23T01:13:45.000-07:002010-04-23T01:13:45.000-07:00Mmm-hmmm, yep, what they said.I am friendly with T...Mmm-hmmm, yep, what they said.I am friendly with The Ex, too, but he left me almost 7 years ago and ours was about as amicable and low-key as a divorce gets. It is amazing to look at him now and feel nothing that I used to feel. But 7 years ago? I felt like you do now.Time heals all wounds...and time also wounds all heels. ;)Violethttp://violetinthemiddle.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-19883276650822627692010-04-22T23:52:20.000-07:002010-04-22T23:52:20.000-07:00BACK away, babe.It's WAY too early for all tha...BACK away, babe.It's WAY too early for all that stuff.Maybe in a decade or two, after you've moved on and have a coupla kids and a new house and a new husband.Whew.By the way. NOW is the perfect time for you to start your own business selling all those incredible treats you make.Do it.roryhttp://oceandoggy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-82827057167065996442010-04-22T22:14:20.000-07:002010-04-22T22:14:20.000-07:00my mom and biological dad had a nice semi friendsh...my mom and biological dad had a nice semi friendship (semi because we never lived near him what with my mom being in the army). my step dad raised me, and he and my biological dad and my step mom and my mom made a point to get together when ever we were nearby. of course this was quite the long time after the divorce.and i remember to this day how mom cried when he died. he was her ex, but that didn't mean she stopped caring for him.give it time is what i'm sayinTheresaGhttp://theresag-lifeinthebigcity.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-67835234475228687422010-04-22T22:04:59.000-07:002010-04-22T22:04:59.000-07:00I agree. I believe it is too early to try to be ON...I agree. I believe it is too early to try to be ONLY friends. Your feelings are still strong, and you still want to be with him. After some time has passed, and you no longer feel for him this way, and only then, would a friendship be non-destructive. But by then, you might not even want that.The Urban Cowboyhttp://theurbancowboy.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-87214122675449361392010-04-22T21:51:05.000-07:002010-04-22T21:51:05.000-07:00I agree with Kara. Give it a year or two and you&...I agree with Kara. Give it a year or two and you'll be able to be friends. Right now, the wounds are too fresh and you will be wavering back and forth between loving him and hating him. In a couple of years, you won't feel anything for him any more, most likely.amhealyhttp://www.adhdattorney.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-35108110662710098922010-04-22T20:57:25.000-07:002010-04-22T20:57:25.000-07:00I am friends with my ex. However, we have been di...I am friends with my ex. However, we have been divorced a long time and the attraction is long gone. I don't think it is wise to try the friend thing at the point you are at when you still want to be married to him.Karanoreply@blogger.com