tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post9012633723229721326..comments2023-06-04T01:42:33.756-07:00Comments on chocolate and whine: I told my husband I loved him. Oops.Stephanie Harshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15502947272568502626noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-26242135420336746602010-07-02T17:47:39.000-07:002010-07-02T17:47:39.000-07:00Nope. Even then, I'd be too afraid of scaring ...Nope. Even then, I'd be too afraid of scaring the poor guy off. What can I say? I'm a pansy.Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-58318717861600867572010-06-28T16:40:19.000-07:002010-06-28T16:40:19.000-07:00Unless it was a guy you suddenly realized you real...Unless it was a guy you suddenly realized you really loved.right?roryhttp://oceandoggy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-16963433430942005032010-06-28T06:57:56.000-07:002010-06-28T06:57:56.000-07:00Could be I suppose. I generally say "I love ...Could be I suppose. I generally say "I love you" without expecting it back. Don't get me wrong ~ it is preferable and nice to hear it when I say it....but I would rather the person say it because they mean it instead of an echo of my words.Debbie Whttp://www.whispersfromthewoods.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-27438294417619406862010-06-27T23:04:20.000-07:002010-06-27T23:04:20.000-07:00Keeping in mind that I signed up (somehow) for twe...Keeping in mind that I signed up (somehow) for tweets from all the people I am following on twitter, not just from this bozo. :)amhealyhttp://www.adhdattorney.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-80275213773732742032010-06-26T15:57:51.000-07:002010-06-26T15:57:51.000-07:00Okay. Good point. I have no rational response. I w...Okay. Good point. I have no rational response. I was going to say I'm just afraid of scaring him off, but then realized how pathetic that would sound, so I changed my mind. Like Michelle said (above), this relationship, or whatever it is, is very new. We're still kind of testing the waters. Having fun, yes, but still adjusting. It really does feel like we're getting to know each other all over again. And I wouldn't say the L word to a guy I'd been seeing for just a couple months.Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-58188491498421728112010-06-25T14:37:25.000-07:002010-06-25T14:37:25.000-07:00Wait, you mean people don't like that??? I may...Wait, you mean people <em>don't</em> like that??? I may have to change my approach. ;)Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-960969608552663362010-06-25T14:31:54.000-07:002010-06-25T14:31:54.000-07:00You're a guy. You tell me. How would you feel ...You're a guy. You tell me. How would you feel if you were in his shoes?Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-88632143443156889632010-06-25T14:26:30.000-07:002010-06-25T14:26:30.000-07:00Most of the time we've spent together lately h...Most of the time we've spent together lately has been so much fun. Then there are times when not being able to do something that once came naturally makes me feel awkward and depressed. Things like reaching out to hold his hand... or even call him... or like saying I love you. It's a weird place to find yourself.Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-24834298945376519502010-06-25T14:22:14.000-07:002010-06-25T14:22:14.000-07:00You're not harsh, you're right. But, matur...You're not harsh, you're right. But, mature or otherwise (and I'm sure it's mostly otherwise), I don't want to be the one who put myself out there and said I love you and really made an effort to make this marriage work if he's still teetering between whether or not he wants to do the same. He's made me feel like a fool before. I really don't want to open myself up to that again.Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-51208304050069008562010-06-25T11:11:54.000-07:002010-06-25T11:11:54.000-07:00Flattered.Unless I hated your guts. But, if that w...Flattered.Unless I hated your guts. But, if that were the case, I wouldn't be accepting your calls and we wouldn't be talking anyway.roryhttp://oceandoggy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-74163977409700756822010-06-25T08:04:54.001-07:002010-06-25T08:04:54.001-07:00But isn't it a bit awkward to say "I love...But isn't it a bit awkward to say "I love you" and not have it verbally reciprocated?Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-35101308603940252832010-06-25T08:04:54.000-07:002010-06-25T08:04:54.000-07:00Heh. Thanks. ;)Heh. Thanks. ;)Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-80266080410251230422010-06-24T23:11:36.000-07:002010-06-24T23:11:36.000-07:00It doesn't appear as if you said it because yo...It doesn't appear as if you said it because you were fishing for the same response...it was an emotion you were feeling at the time. If you love him, I don't see the harm in letting him know.Debbie Whttp://www.whispersfromthewoods.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-52547333903583794762010-06-24T19:57:55.000-07:002010-06-24T19:57:55.000-07:00Whatever you do, don't call it The Talk when y...Whatever you do, don't call it The Talk when you come face to face with your husband. I always want to run for the hills when somebody says "we need to talk". But maybe that's just me :)Dutch Donut Girlhttp://bookywookie.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-71383203629184936352010-06-24T17:56:54.000-07:002010-06-24T17:56:54.000-07:00If you love him, say it. It doesn't have to ha...If you love him, say it. It doesn't have to have any bearing on anything other than that you do, in fact, love him.Right?roryhttp://oceandoggy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-84486590128518322972010-06-24T16:05:43.000-07:002010-06-24T16:05:43.000-07:00Don't stress so hard over it, it wasn't th...Don't stress so hard over it, it wasn't that bad. As far as needing to have The Talk, don't push it. If your new relationship (which is what this is/should be) isn't there yet then don't push it. Are you in a rush or just impatient? Life take time, relationships take A LOT of time and maybe you guys aren't there yet. Take it easy and only take it as seriously as you have to. The more at ease you guys are with each other the better it will be. Don't sabotage it.MichelleSGhttp://michellesg.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-68571880825553307182010-06-24T14:02:08.000-07:002010-06-24T14:02:08.000-07:00I think your last line is it, yes. Good luck. Ch...I think your last line is it, yes. Good luck. Chin up. All that.Alias Motherhttp://aliasmother.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-20656560505108795012010-06-24T11:37:48.000-07:002010-06-24T11:37:48.000-07:00Not knowing where you are headed in the relationsh...Not knowing where you are headed in the relationship has got to be very, very hard. Not feeling able to say I love you freely, also very hard. I was going to say it is definitely time to have The Talk, but my next thought was, sometimes we don't know where we're going or what we're doing. Sigh.Gaylehttp://planetmfiles.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-17563506568560360142010-06-24T07:39:49.000-07:002010-06-24T07:39:49.000-07:00Strange as this may seem, I am more worried that y...Strange as this may seem, I am more worried that your mom's cell phone alerts her for any new tweets from you than that you said "I Love You" to your husband. I would think that even though you are separated that there is some expectation that you still love him. If you do, then tell him. If it is awkward for him then he has to deal with it.I am harsh. I haven't had enough coffee yet. And remember, free advice is worth just what you paid for it....nothing. So ignore me. I would.DebbieQhttp://debsueknit.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28854422.post-42145887182218778442012-01-15T14:53:13.000-08:002012-01-15T14:53:13.000-08:00[...] And by that, I mean both of us. Him for not ...[...] And by that, I mean both of us. Him for not saying anything sooner, for letting me continue to believe that the time we spent together was helping, that it was mending our relationship… and me for letting him do it again. For not asking sooner. For assuming. For doing the same fucking thing I’ve done every time we’ve “broken up.” For the clothes I bought just to impress him, for the hours I spent in bars I hate just because I knew he liked them, for wasting my time and money flying to San Antonio. For everything. For every kiss, every hug, every intimate moment we shared. That fucking “I love you.” [...]Even Bella is not this stupid.http://stephanieharsh.com/2010/07/even-bella-is-not-this-stupid/noreply@blogger.com